THE STAGES OF MARRIAGE IN TURKISH CULTURE
Marriage has an important
role in Turkish culture. For a good marriage, the most important step is to
find a right partner. There are two ways to find a partner. Either people find
someone to get married themselves or their family choose someone to get
married to them. The truth is that they
need time before marriage. After deciding to get married with a right partner,
there are three stages which are to agree to give in a marriage, to get engaged
and wedding in Turkish culture.
The first stage of a
marriage is to agree to give in a marriage. In this stage, groom’s side comes
to the bride’s home with a box of chocolate and a flower bouquet. The bride
makes coffee for her quests and she adds some salt in the groom’s cup of
coffee. That he drinks this coffee means that he is a patient person. Then the
groom’s father asks the prospective of bride’s side from marriage. Both
families reach an agreement to marry. After that, the bride and groom kiss the
hands of the elders. This stage is like a small engagement.
The second stage of a
marriage is to get engaged. This ceremony generally is held in the bride’s home.
After deciding a date for engagement ceremony, bride and groom’s neighbors are
invited it. Quests come and engagement rings is worn to the bride and groom's
right hand fingers by an old man with some words and wishes. In some
ceremonies, they cut their special engagement cake. Today, many engagement
ceremonies are held in a big wedding hall.
In this type of ceremonies, people play with a music and engagement is
celebrated by families and friends like a wedding ceremony. Finally, there is
no rule about the length of the engagement. It depends on the decision of the
bride and groom.
The final stage of a marriage
is the wedding. All marriages require a civil ceremony, conducted by a
municipal officer. It is a legal ceremony and also there is a religious
ceremony a few days ago from a civil ceremony. Before the wedding day, there is
an entertaining henna night. In this night, bride’s hands are applied with
henna. In a wedding ceremony, the groom wears a wedding suit, bride wears a
white dress, called bridal. Before the ceremony, the bride writes her single friends’
names under her shoes. It is believed that the girl whose name is deleted will
get married as soon as possible. Generally, wedding ceremonies are held in a
wedding hall with music and dancing. The quests are worn their presents such as
a bracelet or golden to the bride. But
in some regions, it is held in open areas with the traditional instruments such
as drum and flute. It is called village wedding. This
type of wedding
ceremonies starts on Friday and
end on Saturday.
In Turkish culture,
there are three stages of a marriage. With the different tradition, all these
stages are important for a good Turkish marriage because marriage is the
foundation of the families.
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YanıtlaSilbride makes coffee for her quests ---> spelling mistake (quests)
YanıtlaSilFinally, there is no rule about the length of the engagement. ---> You can say "no limitation" instead of "no rule".
Then the groom’s father asks the prospective of bride’s side from marriage ---> Something is missing in here because "prospective" is an adjective.
1)...all these stages are important for a good Turkish marriage..
YanıtlaSil==> You can use 'traditional' instead of 'good'.
2)...because marriage is the foundation of the* families.==> You can't use an article before plural things.
3)...because marriage is the foundation of the families*.==>You can say like that "A good marriage is the foundation for a strong family."